Anal Massage for Relaxation and Pleasure | Анальный массаж для расслабления и удовольствия (Pacific Media / Joseph Kramer; Ph.D. / Джозеф Крамер доктор медицины) [2007 г., Обучающий курс видеоуроков, DVDRip]

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Maynard this is my partner for the demonstration Layla, and we're going to be demonstrating how you can do an internal do anal massage, including internal massage, for relaxation and pleasure. So Layla, why don't we show some of the positions that we can work in some of the positions that you would be comfortable in. Working with your partner, I'm comfortable working face down. So this can be a very nice position when you when the anus is higher than vagina. You wanna be careful with the lubricant that you're using that the gravity doesn't pull it down because you don't want to introduce that into the vaginal environment. But this can be a very comfortable position. One thing that you can do is that you can use a tower other padding to catch any of the lubricant that might come down, so that can be placed in any number of positions and a simple thing to have handy when you're doing the massage. Are you comfortable being clicking on your belly? This is probably one of the more common positions. People can be very comfortable in. This can really relax, and it's important to have some support here. Support under the chest sometimes rather than the head allows the neck a little more freedom, or you could put the pillow under the belly. So one of the most important parts is that your partner is comfortable and always being able to adjust for comfort. A single position you don't have to find the most comfortable position. Comfort like Pleasure is a constantly changing thing. So to move as you need to holding still and starting to endure it gonna minimize whatever pleasure you're having. So having a number of cushions, towels, various things that are available and moving with your partner. Let it be like a dance rather than trying to find just the one position and sticking to it. One of my favorite positions for working in is on the side. With the knee pulled up. And whatever makes it comfortable on top. And I think this is the position that we're going to use here now. Because in in this position the gravity runs a little bit towards the vagina. It's so with the side position you you don't have to be quiet so careful with that, but I think we'll still use. Just a little bit of padding here so that any lubricant that runs down that way is absorbed by the towel instead. With any anal massage. You're dealing with the whole person, not just with the person whole. Um? Take some time whole body massage. I won't be doing whole body massage now, but spend some time stroking, touching, kneading. Talking. Taking some deep breaths together. Slow. Fairly deep kneading. Let your hands be soft and warm. You don't have to be too careful. Tentative touch is not particularly pleasant. I can touch really light and give goosebumps on purpose, but that's going to feel very different than if I'm touching light because I'm not quite sure what I'm doing. Light on purpose can be very titillating. Light because you're tentative. Not usually very exciting. If you're unsure, talk with your partner. Simple conversations. How's that pressure feel there? Woodmore feel better. Do a little more like that. So don't worry, ask and find out. Vibrations on any of the fleshy parts of the body can feel really good. Vibrations in the thighs. Stroking in the thighs, the insides of the thighs, the buttocks, the lower back. I'm. I can't imagine doing any kind of anal massage without also including at least this much. A really nice place for working with sometimes deeper touch is right where the sits bones right around the sits bones. Sister Bones love pressure. Since bones love pleasure. If I were to, if I had only five minutes to get someone as deeply relaxed as I possibly could, it's right around the sit bones sit bones where I would do the massage. This is it. This is the foundation, the pelvic floor. You have any tension here is needed to support tension anywhere else in the body. When this releases. When this is relaxed. When this feels good. When someone feels safe and can allow this part of their body to relax every part of the body is going to relax and relaxed. Body is one that allows sensations and energy to flow through the whole body. If you're touching for pleasure, any kind of touching for pleasure. This is one of the sweetest places that you can work. Do you like the vibrations? Was a nice breath. When I start spreading the cheeks apart, I often like to push them together first. We often talk about having our ask covered as a way of being protected. This can feel very safe. It can also feel very exciting, so in relaxing. You could almost think of it as kind of a peekaboo. When you close and then open the feeling of air, the feeling of openness. Is heightened. You can actually move the cheeks up and down against each other as well, so you're rubbing cheek to cheek, rubbing them cheek to cheek. And when we're walking, this normally happens. We're not. We don't usually pay too much attention to it, but putting conscious attention to it now and a little more pressure than what we would normally do can be a very pleasurable way to start. It's a nice way to relax. You can also massage with your breath. Hot breath and cold breath or even alternating them can be a very pleasant contrast on the skin. If you push your lips and blow like a kiss, it will be cool. If you open your mouth and breathe from the throat, it will feel quite warm. Do you have a preference for the hot or the cold, or do you kind of like the combination? Both. I like the clothes. I like the cold. Could you blow on the spot? I will often get closer for the warm breath. And for the cooler breath, I'll stand back further. It allows the breath to cool even more before it touches the skin. The tailbone this is a very sensitive area, doesn't usually like very deep pressure. But as with so many things. Mood, different time of the month, different time of the day. One person to another. This can change, so don't think that you have to know beforehand as you're touching. Notice your partner's breath. Notice the resilience in their flesh. The resilient edge of resistance you want to when there's no resilience you've gone too far, too fast. If there's no resistance, you may not be touching enough for them to really feel it. When you can feel that resilient edge, that's where there's the most pleasure. That's where there's the possibility of release. So whether it's titillation or relaxation, or both, that you're looking for, follow that resilience. You want both resilience and resistance and around the tailbone. Just know that anytime you're close to a Bony surface, too much pressure can be painful. So if I feel unsure about it, I can just ask my partner. How does that pressure right there feel? Would more or less make it feel better? Try some more. Sometimes if I'm feeling really unsure about what I'm feeling with someone flesh, I will just make a little deal. So I'm going to start pressing here and I'm going to keep adding pressure and adding pressure and when it gets to just right or if I've gone just a little too far. Tell me when so I know where the edge is. Wow. And I might find my edge first, but then I can let go of being scared about pushing too hard. Yes, as I just discovered. So before I start touching the anus, I'm going to move put gloves on. The gloves in this case are vinyl with vinyl gloves. I don't usually like to use oil for anal massage, but again, there's different. Everybody has a different taste. Some people like the thickness of oil. I prefer something that feels much more slippery. With vinyl gloves, you don't have to worry about the oil. Eating through them. Vinyl is a little less stretchy than the latex. So it's it's important to properly size them because there's less stretch. If they're too big, the folds on the glove can be irritating, and for some people it can get in the way of your being able to feel what's happening. And when trust touch. To the anus slowly. I think one of the most underrated. Strokes if you would is just holding. When your hand is relaxed and warm and you hold still, it gives your partner time to feel the warmth. To share the breath. Sometimes you can even feel a pulse. If you take the time to feel that. You're going to feel a lot more of whatever you're going for, so whether it's relaxation or pressure. Relaxation, pressure pleasure. This holding allows it to warm. It gives us time to. It gives us time to feel. It gives us time to notice and change for comfort. Is that pressure comfortable for you? Oh, nice breath. A broad. A smooth surface just holding, especially in the anal area, will often induce a deep breath and that deep, easy breathing is important for relaxing and it opens the body to feel pleasure all through. That's one of the easiest ways to teach deep breathing is just to hold the anus the annual area. Just hold it. What a better way to convey not in a hurry, no agenda. Now I haven't put any lubricant on yet. I'm still touching dry and when I am touching without the lubricant, I want to be very aware that I don't pull the skin or pull her. But I do like touching dry first because then when I with the dry touching you know, needing the feeling, the warmth of the hand. Then when I do add the lubricant it makes the lubricant feel even slicker, even wetter, so it adds another texture to the massage. And using the side of my hand just cutting the cheek and putting a little pressure there again just holding. It changes how the pressure feels. On the anus, but it also brings. Cheek into the play and my fingers can also massage around the sits bone. If I'm going to do any stroking dry, I keep it very, very light. If you've got a partner who's really ticklish and they like tickle, this is great. If they really ticklish and they don't like tickle, then I probably wouldn't do this. I keep getting a little goosebump reaction here, but your breath is staying low that would. Ah, I thought yes. So goosebumps and deep breathing is a good combination. So I'm going to move your tablet just a little bit here. Is that comfortable? I meant to do that as a surprise, but. We're using a silicone based lubricant here. My partner has told me that this is her favorite. She enjoys the texture of it. It tends to say smooth for a while and another advantage, especially with this position is it tends to. Well, it's funny to say sticks to the skin for a lubricant, but there's not a big mess of it. That's that gravity is going to pull. Down towards the vagina, which when I'm working with a woman partner, I want to be very sensitive about. Again, there's there's variations in that sensitivity, but in general it's probably a good idea to not introduce anything with bacteria into the vaginal environment. It's very friendly for the bacteria, but it's not for us. Any surface of your hand that you can relax. Can be used to draw. Crossed the anus. If you pull One Direction and pull through the other direction, you may notice that One Direction feels smoother to your hand. The direction it feels smoother to your hand will probably also feel smoother to your partner. So it's not that you only want to go that direction, but the direction that feels the smoothest. You probably want to go more than the other way. You feel a little smoother when I come up. Does that feel more comfortable? Also, when I'm working with the anus above the vagina and upstroke keeps me from pushing things towards the vagina. So if I was concerned about that. It's not that I'm not concerned if I was concerned about pushing that tonight, I would probably try another position because I think it would be more important to be able to move my hands in a way that's comfortable to my partner. Change gravity rather than your stroke. So I'm just doing some more vibrations and holding. Holding the anus with a firm broad pressure and doing vibrations in the buttocks can be very pleasant. So I'm pressing on the sacrum and pressing on the anus, but I'm being very mindful of pressure against the tailbone. So if you're wanting to add more other kinds of arousal to this massage as well, there are a number of options there your partner could touch herself, play with a vibrator. If I were going to be touching in both vaginally and anally, one of the things that I would do is I would designate this hand pussyy hand this hand the but hand, and then I would keep the two separate again. You know being very careful not to introduce a lubricant from the anus into the vagina, and this and in this way. And have her my partner moved. I keep the hands going that way. So if one hand just does one thing one does the other and that way I can. I can add to my partner, stimulating herself as well. Contrasting between some very light strokes. And some deeper strokes, the contrast. Anything that you keep doing over and over again. The body becomes accustomed to. So I don't like to change too abruptly. But I like to change off and I want to add a texture to the whole massage. So if I if I touch and hold then take the hand away, the air feels different. I can do a little tickle sort of touch. And it's going to feel more sensitive. I take it for a little bit, and then I might go to something else. Deep massaging around the sits bones. Stretching pushing together. Vibrations. Might come back to another kind of holding. So here I'm using a loose fist. I don't want to make a hard fist. The idea isn't to make the knuckles really hard, but it is to have a broad surface. I can just hold, I can vibrate up and down, back and forth. I can pulse in and out. And varying which way that I'm moving then will keep it alive. I can also make one knuckle stand out a little more than the rest. It won't go in, but it accents the pressure right on the anus. And at this point I'm stretches. Little circular motions with the knuckle. Little circular motions with the knuckle itself, but when I've started it when I first start with a nail massage, I don't wanna do any. Rotating. Rotating requires a great deal of relaxation and lubrication, so when I first start I want to keep little motions like this. But I don't want to be doing this until later on until they're very comfortable or quite aroused and certainly well lubricated. Just gonna add a little more rubric in here when I keep it. Is starting to feel just a little dry to you? So at any point that you want more, just say so. And if I start to put on more and you don't want more, please say so. This is for you. So what I'm doing here is I call spider fingers. It's just a sequential articulation of the fingers. It can be done along. The crack. Very lightly with a tickle sort of action. Or it could be more of a dragging. Smooth massaging action, or I can actually pull into the cheeks and around the sits bones. So if people who like a little deeper work around the system owns this can be quite. Exciting. Or relaxing. Do you like that pressure? So what I'm doing this glide my hands is just a moderate pressure and I'm being again mindful of the tailbone. And just my hand sweeps here on on the bottom of the buttcheek because I don't want to be going down and touching the vagina and coming back up. So this sort of action like this is kind of circling in fact, just circling. Right on the sits bones can be quite nice, but that sort of action is very nice for coming in for the glide. Paddle thumbs my thumb is either pushing on my thumb or against the anus. This can be done to either side. You can vary the speed. I feel very relaxed and warm there. This is comfortable for you. So as you can see, I've not had an agenda to get inside. They're starting to be enough relaxation that just as my thumb goes past. She's opening. I can feel the breath. So I could play this very relaxed or I could play it like a tease. I think it's a good idea for them to want you inside a long time before you get there. I'll put just a little more lubricant on my thumb. I like this eyedropper. Lower the left. Yeah. So when insertion starts to say more of a possibility. I want to approach it slowly. I want to play it slowly the doorbell. I find a pressure that just starts me to go in. You can feel the pressure of the sphincter again. Feeling that resistant resilience. And I keep that same pressure and as they relax, the same pressure takes me in a little bit more each time so that I never push through. I'm going to let Layla open to my thumb, and if it goes in, it's because she relaxed open for me to go in, not because I pushed. If I'm working with a partner who is? New to anal stimulation and I see that they've got an agenda about having something in then as their partner. I hold back. To show them that they don't need to push through, there's nothing to prove here. It can be wonderful being inside, but you don't have to. And if somebody's got an agenda, whether it's me or my partner, the agenda is going to inhibit the pleasure. So doorbell is just repeatedly pressing with the same pressure and letting them open. Another way that I like to is using this rounded surface of the thumb. And justice rolling the tip of the thumb across. Name is this one doesn't seem to work as well. Coming up using a finger coming this way, a finger coming up like this can feel really nice. I can do circles with. I can do anything with the finger I do with the thumb, but specifically for starting to go in. So I can press. So I can press like this. As you can see, Layla is relaxing to the thumb. Or if I put a little bit of glide. Down. The gliding down is. Much more relaxing for insertion than gliding up. So my thumb has just it's just sitting inside the first vector. Not going to be in a rush, I'm just going to hold. Let it be warm. Wait till I can feel the breath. That pressure feel OK. And then I start the doorbell action again. At any point it's OK to hold still to use breath. Or to use vibrations. Once I've started to go in. If I come back out, I want to come out with the same sensitivity that I went in with. Don't just pop it out. Depending on you know how well it's lubricated inside how that's distributed, how relaxed they are. Sometimes the pulling out can cause people to clench and add. Clenching can be uncomfortable in high states of row that clenching can be quite desirable. A good way to find out what your partner likes is to ask her. But if you're both breathing together, sometimes you can ask with your hand if you start to pull out in the breath stops. Then you might want to slow down as long as the breathing continues, so does the relaxation. I really enjoy starting to go in, coming back out and starting to go back in again. Some people will find this really teasing. Some people will find it really reassuring. I enjoy both. Just the tip of my finger just slipped in past the second sphincter. Just about that far. My fingers in just about that far. So I'm just going to hold still. Oh, nice breath. I'm Layla, breathe my finger just went in a little bit further. I'm letting her breathe me in. If my partner is clenching unconsciously clenching it because it's something is too new or too fast or uncomfortable, I wanna. I definitely want to hold still. I'm certainly if I've gone in a little too far, too fast. I'm not just going to pull out even if I've hit up a place of it being uncomfortable. It's much better to hold still and come out slowly than to suddenly pull away 'cause that can just compound. The feelings of discomfort. I can also my partner can or I can ask my partner to purposefully clench around this center, because around my finger with a sinker, as you clench and let go. Each time you let go, it can relax a little more deeply. And with. The feelings of pleasure or certainly in high states of arousal, the clenching that might be uncomfortable at this point could actually be quite stimulating. Trust your partner to know what's most enjoyable for her. Do you like the coolness of the lubricant? When I first drop it on? So I'm using vibrating strokes or little stretching strokes, kind of stretching from side to side and down. Right now I'm just using a gentle pulsing like this. Fingers not sliding so much as I'm sort of pushing the sphincter back and forth where it's holding onto my finger. I can do a stretching. Up and down to the sides. My guess is when I stretch to the side, it's a little more comfortable than if I stretch up and down. Yeah, because my stretch to the side you seemed to relax more when I stretched up and down. Even tighten just a little bit more, OK. So I'm just pressing like this right now, right on the floor and then to relax. You seem to relax more with that more comfortable. And justice, because I've started to go in doesn't mean that I can't still massage on the outside. Once I've started insertion, I still love to massage on the buttocks. The thighs. Upon to the back. All around the sacral area can be very pleasurable. Find out what your partner likes. Some people like percussive tapping other people might like pressure. You seem to like you like the tapping. Oh yeah. You do like tapping. Zero vibrating needing. Deep kneading around the sits bones, even gliding around the. Anus itself, so I'm keeping the finger that's been inserted. I'm just letting it insert very slowly, but my other hand can still continue the massage. I don't have an agenda for getting inside and once I start going inside, I don't forget that there's still a beautiful outside to play with as well. Stretching, stretching the cheeks and vibrating the whole cheek. When you're doing insertion can really relax. Add to the pleasure. Yeah, you do like that sacral. So as the massage progresses. And depending on the level of arousal, but my partner enjoys. You notice I'm still just going in. It's not about going in and rubbing it back and forth. Just the feeling of pressure there, just the hoeing. Having my partner squeeze and let go. There's a lot of things that we can do with insertion that's not just poking in and out. That's not to say that poking in and out when it's desired can be pleasurable. But in my experience, that's the only thing in many people's repertoire, and it gets worn out. So I'm doing a little. Kind of stretching circle now. And I'm noticing is that I'm doing that. Layla is breathing and relaxing even more. I would take that as a yes. So I'm kind of hooking my finger down and just pressing on the floor of the rectum. Just pulling the finger down, not hooking it too far. Just kind of petting the floor. Is that pressure or feel comfortable for you? Would more or less feel better? It's just the same, just the same OK. Now what I'm doing with my finger and thumb again, I don't want to push any lubricant into the vagina, but I'm pushing up against the sits bones run up to the pubic bone in the front. So when I press the sides, the side of my finger and thumb against the sits bones and I bring my finger down like this. I'm actually holding the pelvic floor in my hand. And I can rock or vibrate. Our whole body from this place. Is that pressure against the bottom feel comfortable? Let's go. Another way that I might do that is if I had my thumb inserted. I would use these two fingers to hold the bottom of the pelvic floor so it would be squeeze like this. So as it is now, I'm doing it like this instead. This is probably a little more awkward. But thumbs are usually bigger than fingers, so I will often sort of finger first. A big inserted doorbell. I should say a doorbell with the finger inserted. It's kind of a doorbell against the bottom and a doorbell with the whole hand. So I'm using a circular motion like this. And just starting to withdraw, I want to withdraw slowly as I went in. Or maybe not quite as slowly, but certainly as sensitively. Counselor would you be comfortable with my playing with the thumb here? Oh yeah. The pointing finger. But just as I asked you that you said yes on both ends. I really like this eyedropper. Listening, writing stroke is a nice way to introduce the lubricant. So. Thumb pressing down fingers like this so that I'm holding the entire pelvic floor in my hand. And pressing on the sacrum. It's the tapping there. The finger that you used inside already isn't going to use the visionary. I'm keeping it up here. Yeah, and that's why I also pulled it. Now, thank you for asking. Yes. I didn't get him. I hope so. I like your sensitivity and that you don't feel a rush to get anywhere. Helps me relax and enjoy it. This is just right where I want to be everywhere I've been so. My concern here is that 'cause I'm pressing on the towel there a little bit and that the. The towel that area of the towel might be a little irritating. There is that the pressure is OK good. So I'm letting my whole hand relax. Now I'm letting go of the pressure here, 'cause the relaxed hand moves much more easily. If my if my finger or thumb is rigid, I can poke something and make it hurt more easily. If my hand is really relaxed. I can move fairly vigorously. With much less chance of causing any discomfort. So I'm just adding a glide around the insertion. Very warming. Are you seem to relax even more? I'll sleep with my thumb. And I find that the floor of the rectum seems to be a little more. And enjoyable then the top. You can certainly hook up around the tailbone that people will vary in what stimulation feels good right now when I press down. Layla, breathe more deeply, makes more pleasurable sounds, and so I started focusing a little more of my attention. Using my right hand is a vibrator. Don't have to worry about the extension cord that way. Hey. Do we need to move the towel? Message to the side. It works for me. So what I've done here is I'm just going to pull the towel up with my fingers so that holds it in place. Thanks for moving and getting comfortable. One saying you don't have to stay in. You can come back out. Gonna play on the outside, you can go back in again. It all depends. To feel a little more secure. So just as the goal wasn't insertion going in when I come back out, it's not over. Still, the vibrations the holding. All of the strokes that I was doing before I went in can feel just as good when you come out. Just following the cheating they're holding and taking some deep breaths together. Maintains the feeling of connection. And quite literally brings the massage to closure. So what would you say about this experience in terms of it being erotic or sensual? Well it was very erotic and it's it's own way, wasn't like. Highly stimulated arousal that if you would include like clitoral stimulation or vaginal stimulation with it, but I myself enjoying just all of the different sensations of your touch, and it was very sensual, very enjoyable in its own way. I didn't feel like I needed or wanted anything else in the moment. I just enjoyed the. The anal massage asked itself. And I guess usually when I do ANEL play by myself, I just sort of wet up a toy and stick it in there and have my vibrator on and I'm focused on like. Coming so this is a very nice to just feel all the different sensations that. I couldn't do myself either. As he is Lisa, it's nice to just sit back and relax and feel all the variety of stimulation and. All the different sensations that the anal area has to offer. It makes some of the things in the backside easier, yeah? Is this something that you could imagine doing with? Clear on vaginal stimulation or like working on the G spot. Yeah, I guess that would add even more dimensions to it. I definitely learned a lot though. What I can do with my own partner and just as far as anal stimulation. I liked the fact that you weren't in a rush to go inside and I could relax a lot more and. All the external massage added to it when you were inside. To the experience too. I'm curious how you would what you would say your relationship with your anus is now in a kind of like, you know, have you always felt comfortable and relaxed there, or is it some place that you newly discovered? Or is it a place that you've had to overcome? Some kind of barriers against like what's your relationship with your anus? I guess I felt some shyness and reservation in the beginning. I can't remember exactly when I first tried anal sex, but I've enjoyed it to a point. Although it's always like something I have to really feel comfortable with. The partner and everything. And I guess sometimes I have like having the control of playing with a toy so that I can just feel totally in control of what's going on, and so you trust yourself with just myself and other people, but I trusted you with it so. So I guess. That says something. And yeah, I felt very relaxed in the whole massage and. Could breathe in through the whole thing and enjoy the whole experience, so you're breathing. Definitely it easier because when you breathe I can feel the breath happening and that's what it's telling me, yes or no, or as soon as I feel the breath stop then I go then you stop. So then I can hold still and find out. Was this a good stop or was this a? Hold on for a minute. Let's see what's going on. I think a lot of people's fear that you know plays. That initial if someone rushes in too fast and there's pain, then kind of scares them off of it so. But if you go slowly as you did, and the person feels totally relaxed with my fingers going in, then. There's nothing to worry about, so it wasn't too slow for you. No, I felt like I was enjoying just feeling every small sensation. At times when you were quite relaxed, it looked to me like you were just really deeply into a trance. This time did you feel like sleepy or was it just really focused? What was what? Can you say a little bit about where you've been? I don't think I was really near falling asleep. I was just deeply, deeply relaxed and when I closed my eyes I could relax and just get into the sensations. More of what my body is feeling in a two and more so I guess I just tuning with my eyes closed and it's in a kind of trance state, a heightened state. Now there can be a lot of fear about touching the anal area and the dirtiness of it, but the way that this was demonstrated with the gloves, there's nothing to worry about about the hygiene and. If it's approached slowly like this, it's a great way for beginners to overcome their fear. And we felt that can be felt that can be felt in this area and enjoyed as well as just tension release. And that's a really important part of it is just releasing tension that we hold in that area that we might not be aware of. So I definitely recommend anal massage.